ShivaConnect.com is a FREE online resource that features a private "Shiva Registry" system to share funeral & shiva details, organize the food for each day and make charitable donation requests.
Users can read about shiva customs, find local delis to send shiva platters, post food that has already been ordered, make memorial donations, receive an emailed Yahrzeit Reminder and find helpful resources for Jewish mourners, their families and friends.
You may not think you need it, until you see all that can be done - quickly and simply. Using a Shiva Registry reduces stress, unnecessary phone calls, and wasted food. Visit ShivaConnect.com to learn just how helpful it can be!
All Synagogues & Jewish Charities are welcomed to complimentary listings and links to facilitate memorial donations.
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It happened that I was glad that I had so recently looked at the information on this Shiva website. Recently, an elderly member of my minyan died and I went to the graveside funeral this morning. Although I had attended Jewish funerals before (a couple years ago, we lost three minyan members only in their 50's in a single year), I had not attended the burials.
I did not know the deceased well, but I remember him fondly from 1995 when we were new to our lay-led minyan that met in his shul's building. He always greeted us warmly when he saw us in the halls, unlike many of the other members of the host shul who were cold and rude to us. The shul "merged" with our minyan a few years ago, and Bobby seemed happy to join us---he was not bitter than that the shul that he had been an active member in for over 50 years had "died", or frustrated that although the minyan made some changes, but still did many things differently than his shul. Rather he was grateful that we welcomed any members of his shul who wanted to join us. I'm glad now that my family had sat and chatted with this man and his wife at a synagogue dinner earlier this year.
He and his wife have no living relatives, and the minyan board members had mentioned in services and at the annual meeting last night how important it would be to have at least a minyan and a show of support for the widow. I knew that most of the members of my minyan could not take the time off from work, whereas I do have more flexible hours even though I'm really busy at work right now. So I made the hour+ drive to the cemetery by myself because my husband could not get away from work and other members who live near me would be going from the funeral to their jobs in the city, not back to the suburbs. It was the first time that I had ever helped to shovel dirt into the grave for a Jewish funeral. From the Shiva website, I remembered that it is traditional to use the back of the shovel.
Not the kind of "first as a Jew" experience one usually thinks of, but death is a part of Jewish life too. I think that Judaism has some really good and helpful traditions for dealing with death. I am glad to be able to play a part in those traditions to comfort those in my community who suffer such loss.