'Siyyum' is completion - the completion, for instance, of a course or topic of study.
Last month, our oldest daughter graduated from college. In recognition of this accomplishment, we decided to host a 'siyyum' in her honor, in the form of a Shabbaton - a Sabbath weekend with study.
We arranged for a community Shabbat dinner, and a Shabbat morning service, with kiddush following and a special study session on a topic of our daughter's choice. We arranged with the rabbi who has occasionally served our little chavurah, for her to come up here from the city and lead services.
Our daughter read from the Torah, and read the Haftorah and delivered a short d'var Torah (a five minute talk on the subject of this week's readings from Torah and Prophets). It was lovely.
The study topic of her choice was Lashon HaRa - 'the Evil Tongue'. We discussed the Chofetz Chaim's book on the subject, and talked about forbidden and permitted speech.
It went beautifully - I'm going to attach some photographs (this rabbi allows photography during services - not a usual thing, but we appreciated it a lot, because our daughter is planning to make aliyah, and after a few months, we may not see her again for many months or even years.
We met at a member's home, well out of town above a local reservoir. It was a beautiful day in a beautiful setting (although it started to get a little breezy toward the end of the service)! We had a lovely time.
Sounds like a wonderful event, and such a very beautiful venue!
The Torah study topic is a great one.
Simcha, when is your daughter planning to make Aliyah? How old is she? I would guess that since your husband is Israeli that she has visited several times before? How is her Hebrew?
Do you worry about issues she may face as the daughter of a non-Orthodox giyoret? I'm wondering because my daughter has made noises about considering making Aliyah and she would have the issue of being a Conservative child convert. It actually kind of bothered me when I realized that if she made Aliyah, she would likely become secular.
She is 22 but will be 23 this fall. She has been in Israel several times - at 18 months for three weeks, at age 9 for a month, at age seventeen for a couple of weeks, and last year for six months at the University of Haifa. Her Hebrew is reasonable but not super fast and fluent - however, she can read Torah without much trouble (the scroll without markings) and newspapers and most books, and she can converse fairly well. In other words, its a darned sight better than mine is! (I can converse with two year olds: where is your mother? Is this a ball?) As the daughter of an Israeli, she has automatic citizenship actually and she already has an Israeli passport. But she wants to do some (limited) army service and fit in - there are actually TWO agencies that vet people's 'status'. The civil government agencies will hand her citizenship and legal residence in a heartbeat (already have, actually) because she has TWO Jewish grandparents, after all (civil law in Israel requires only one for immediate citizenship purposes). But the RELIGIOUS authorities!! You are right, they are likely to be a problem for her, IF she wants to do anything that falls into their authority area - like get married, or divorced, or buried (God forbid).
My sister in law and her family are there, though, so she would have emotional support. My inlaws are dati (observant but not fanatical about it, basically) except for one or two. One niece is Hasid/haredi. Some of my husband's cousins are kibbutzniks (notoriously secular).
I can't see her being 'secular' - she is actually a bit MORE observant than I am, about some things at least. It's important to her. She will do what she wants, of course. I just hope she finds work and is happy and safe.