Post by elle on Feb 8, 2014 19:35:05 GMT -5
I really need your advice. Today I wrote a letter to my Rabbi, a very passionate one. At some points I may have been too forceful, but I was overcome with emotion on this subject.
Today in temple we had a beautiful morning service. There was a baby naming, a bat mitzvah, the cantor was wonderful as usual, as was the Rabbi, and the house was packed. But there was one thing that was so upsetting, so distracting, so disrespectful, at least in my view...
And that was the dress of several young women in attendance (from different families). One in particular had an aliyah with her family, and was on the bimah in a skin tight dress, not even a hands breadth length below her behind! Another was in a dress to the floor... of sheer black lace with a slip that only covered her intimate areas.
I was- appalled. I realize that as a Reform synagogue, there is a lot of room for different levels of observance. But what about RESPECT? What about respect for our young women's bodies, our elders, THE TORAH?? What about common decency?
It's not in my personal belief that we need to have our dress mandated; but as a Reform Jewish society are we really showing that we are unable to govern ourselves and our children, at a level as simple as dress??
This is one of my Rabbi's last services here, as he is leaving the synagogue to start his own congregation. I told him that in no way are my feelings a judgement of these young womens' relationship with God or their parents- but about the message we give our children about the value of their bodies, and the message we send the world. And I'd like to know his thoughts.
Have I really lost it here? Am I being too "prudish"?? I'm just so upset. But I feel like I cannot condone, by membership, this kind of message to the future of our Jewish heritage. It may seem silly, but with a difference of an opinion as large as this, I just don't think I can join this synagogue.