If you didn't keep kosher at home and then decided to, who in the family drove that decision?
Our rabbi told an interesting story during his drasha last Shabbat about raising kids to have a truly Jewish identity. He once had a student who was very excited about learning all the rules of kashrut and wanted to keep kosher at home, but his parents were resistant. They talked him out of it eventually.
We don't currently keep kosher, though we're gradually moving in that direction. I think if one of our daughters asked us to, we'd just do it.
We did not keep kosher at all when we first got married, except that my husband insisted on separating out all chometz at Pesach and at least cooking "kosher-style" although with treif cookware and dishes.
After that, it was often me, even before I converted, who kept making the case for moving towards more observance of Kashrut. One rationale was that I wanted my kids to be familiar enough with the basic rules that they would not do something really embarrassing at the homes of our observant friends. Another rationale was that it would allow us to invite our more observant friends over to eat at our house. But it was probably just the influence of being around more observant people and having lots of kosher food readily available even at the local chain supermarket, that encouraged both my husband and I to want to slowly increase our kashrut observance.
In the end, I was the one (and it was before I converted) who really wanted to go totally kosher (in addition to the Dairy kosher cookware, plates and utensils we already had so that we could invite our observant friends for cooked meals). I was still using the fact that we had more observant friends to justify that change (since then we could have observant friends over for Thanksgiving with turkey, for example). But I guess I had a hard time admitting how much I wanted to do it for myself because that seemed selfish. My husband understood and was surprisingly supportive. He basically said that if it made me happy then he would go along with it. His only requirement was that I had to explain to my parents that it was my choice, not his (even though they might not believe it).
I realize now that one reason I "need" kashrut more than my JBB husband is that it gives me a feeling of connection to past generations of Jews and many Jews around the world since I don't have a biological connection.
Last Edit: Nov 18, 2010 0:34:03 GMT -5 by Debbie B.
I read up about it - I was interested more because of the 'Jewish connection' historically than I was interested in any commandment aspect. Over time, I've become more appreciative of the many LEVELS of meaning that can be found in kashrut. We aren't perfect, but we continue to grow, I hope.
There are minutiae of 'how' to do it, that can be contradictory - its a topic where having a knowledgeable and observant friend or relative to rely on, can be really helpful. There are leniencies that can work for one person that may not work for another - plus the issue of 'I want my inlaws/friends to be comfortable eating in my home' can be an important consideration.